Sunday, August 12, 2007


My bbt went up this morning indicating ovulation, so the timing of the IUI could not have been better. I think we're both doing okay with things. T is less sad than he thought he would be. I think I am where I expected to be -- sad, but hopeful.

I keep wanting to do things to increase the chances of success, but I know there isn't anything I can do (or stop doing) to make the chances of becoming pregnant go up. It's a crap shoot. So I am continuing to knit, continuing to search for a job, and just doing whatever it is I normally do. I went for a walk this morning -- I am trying to keep up with exercising.

I'm going to therapy tomorrow. I think I want to discuss disclosure with her. Like, once I finally do get pregnant (notice the positive slant there?), how do we or do we not disclose the donor issue? Do we just say something if someone asks a probing question? Do we not disclose anything? We don't want to lie, and we don't want anyone to think it's a 'secret' but at the same time, it's not something we plan on singing from the rooftops, I guess. Though, I am really bad at keeping things in. I have a tendency to over share. So, I'm not sure how to resolve all of those issues. But I really think my therapist will have a good idea about how to handle all of this.

So, today is 1dpo. How early can I poas?


Natalie said...

I'm so sad that you guys both feel even a little bit of sadness about your IUI. I mean, it's expected obviously, and completely understandable, but it's just like... I guess I'm angry that you have to go through all of this. At how unfair it all is.

The disclosure thing is so hard. I too have a huuuge problem with over-sharing everything. It's so tricky. I hope you guys are able to figure something out that works for you.


Reproductive Jeans said...

Glad it went well! I hope you both continue to grasp onto hope and happiness as the 2ww progresses...Ill be checking on you!

Erin said...

I'm so glad to hear that the timing went well! I will be thinking about you this 2ww and checking in often!

I hope your therapist has good guidance for you about disclosure. We may have to think about the same thing (although w/ eggs rather than sperm) and I often wonder how we'll deal with it.

Sending you so much good juju!!

My Reality said...

You could poas today if you want, just don't be upset when there is only one line! :)

I am happy to hear your timing was great. I hope the counselor has some good advice on how to address the donor issue.

We have considered donor just about everything. Initially, I figured I would be open about it with everyone. I read on a blog (and I can't remember who) that they weren't going to tell anyone until they were able to tell the child. I think if we go with donor eggs/sperm, we may take that route. That way, the child won't learn the info from anyone but us. I don't know for sure, I might tell a few trusted people, but I am still unsure what I would do. I am interested to hear what your counsellor will say about it.

I really hope this is your cycle, Rachel.

ultimatejourney said...

I'm so glad the timing was so great. It's hard not to think about how it "should've been" when you have the IUI (not to mention at various other, less expected, points) but just think how happy you will be when you are holding a baby in your arms.

I'm curious to hear what your therapist has to say about the disclosure issue.

My fingers are crossed for you!

Trace said...

I hear you! I am not good about keeping a secret at all.

Good luck w/IUI!!!

Leah said...

Glad to hear things seem to be going according to plan. I'm not sure what to tell you about the disclosure situation -- we are on the cusp of using donor eggs and have no idea who/how/when we would tell.

As for your POAS question, 10dpo is the earliest that I ever trust trying. But it's taken up to 12dpo to get a + before. Therefore, I always start testing at 10dpo and just keep going until I get a BFP or I hit 14dpo. Then I get drunk as a skunk.

I'm doing the lucky chicken dance for you over here!

Mony said...

Get those sticks ready.
Love the positive slant xx

Samantha said...

I don't know what to tell you about disclosure. That seems like a delicate question and I'll be interested to hear what your therapist says.

I'm glad the IUI went smoothly. I'd probably wait until 14 DPO before POAS, but I'm probably on the conservative side.

megan said...

glad to hear that the timing was so perfect. i know this must be bittersweet for the two of you, but i hope this is it and that this is the cycle that brings home a baby.

Sarah said...

hahaha, hope days 2-12 dpo pass much more quickly!