Monday, September 15, 2008

Comment moderation

It seems that some people who are anti-adoption have found my blog. I have left their comments up and tried to address their viewpoint a little bit. But I do not want my blog to be a place where we are having an argument over whether adoption is okay or not. Some adoptions are okay, and I am sure that some have also been done in a non-ethical and non-moral manner.

Neither of us are going to change each other's minds. Again, I have left their comments up on a previous post. If you are interested in reading more about the anti-adoption movement please refer to the book that one poster left as a comment, or you can link to their blogs and get more information, I am sure.

This blog is a diary for me. Yes, it is a diary that other people can read or comment on, but I just can not put myself in a place where I am arguing with people who do not agree with how I am creating my family. I have turned on comment moderation now and I will no longer be publishing these clearly anti-adoption posts.

I have to go to work now, but I wanted to post this now.

13 comments:

Michelle said...

Your decision is your own, and each situation is different. Blog on!

Deborah said...

Wow, Rachel. I admire your respect for these people and their views, and your willingness to explain your rationale behind the decisions. I'm sure some folks will have trouble with that, but I think you have tried so hard to do the right thing with the comment situation.

I'm sure there are as many feelings about adoption as there are adoptees, birth parents, and adoptive parents.

Samantha said...

I think you've described yourself and the purpose of this blog beautifully. Your grace and poise impress me.

DrSpouse said...

Thanks, Rachel - you do deserve respect for the way you are handling this.

(I'm now worried I'll get loads of unwanted comments over at my blog but I haven't been posting much about adoption lately anyway).

Natalie said...

Oh boy. I'm sorry you're having to deal with this on top of everything else. You're handling it with remarkable grace, though.

Like you said, this is your personal journal.

Kel said...

I'm sorry you're receiving such negative feedback! For what it's worth, I am an adoptee and truly admire you for the choice you're making. Rather than selfish, I see adoption as compassionate, being willing to take on a child who is not your own and raise them, provide for them, and love them as if they were. It takes incredible heart to do so.

I hope the process is a quick and smooth one for you, Rachel.

Hopeful Mother said...

Keep blogging on, Rachel. I think you are being very respectful and open minded about it all.

You guys are going to be great parents!

Almamay said...

Rachel,
Since I was lucky enough to find your blog I've always admired your honesty, intensity, beauty and dignity. I will never every understand women (and it's always women) who are horrible to other women who's only crime is to want to start a family. If people would only read their history they would realise that adoption has been around as long as civilisation has existed. Adoption is the best example of civilsation that we can aspire to. Keep strong.

luna said...

I'm sorry you've had to take this step to protect yourself in this space.

beagle said...

Try not to let it get you down. I think you're handling this well. (I just shut down my blog as soon as I got flack, so how brave was I??)

Your story will be your own, your child's story will be his/her own.

DrSpouse said...

PS - I've posted something on my blog about my response to the last post and some of your comments.

Heather.PNR said...

I'm sorry your blog doesn't feel like a safe space for you right now.

niobe said...

Good for you. I think you've handled this with a lot of grace.