I finally started to work on the book. I feel like I have a completed draft of the Dear Birth Mother letter and I have about 25 or so pictures in somewhat of a layout for a book. I'm feeling pretty proud of myself for getting all of this down. I'm getting much closer, and I'm trying to keep my "glue it down and move on" motto in the back of my head while doing this. We are going to do the booklet in "landscape" format (which hopefully is okay) because the computer program that I am using won't let me switch the pages around. If this isn't okay, all of my work will be for naught, so I suppose I should check on that. Hm.
It's funny how few pictures we have of the two of us. We have some of one and some of the other, but not a lot of both. I'm going to include a montage of my knitting/crocheting and some pictures of the "baby's room." I have pictures of the house and yard. I suppose we should go to some of the nearby parks and include that in there too.
The captions are really difficult. I want to be informative, but I also want to make sure our personality shows through.
I've also noticed there are more pictures with one of my brother's family than the other. This is probably because we spend more time with one than the other, but I wish I had a couple more of that other side. There are only a few pictures of my nephew and they are only in big groups. He and I are pretty close, so I want to get something in there.
This book is so hard. It feels so inadequate. I feel really accomplished with what I have done, but I just am not feeling too good about all of this working out. Sigh.
Tomorrow's Monday and it's off to work again. I wish I could take a couple days off, but alas that is not in the cards for me. Next week is a long weekend, so maybe that will help a little.
But I did start the booklet, and that is a really, really good thing.
Life as an adoptive family.
My Story
- Rachel
- 4 miscarriages, 3 failed IVFs with PGD, 2 different sperm donors, 1 diagnosis of balanced translocation. Now we are the proud parents of a boy via domestic infant semi-open adoption. We had a failed match for kid #2 and are now matched again.
6 comments:
glad to hear you're moving so far along with this!
It is hard to put together. I bought one of those little digital cameras so I could easily carry it and took pictures of us whenever we were doing "active" things. I can email you a copy of our profile if you need suggestions. I have this book called Reaching Out which is a how to write a dear birth mother letter book if you're interested. It's in a PDF format so I can easily email.
Actually, since I'm not sure what's going to happen to us I've been gathering everything together so we can easily do a homestudy update and now I have tons and tons and tons of pics. Like you, I don't have many of my husbands family because we don't see them as often.
It WILL be great!
I know it's very nerve wracking though . . . so much riding on that book (or in our case, two skimpy pages) . . .
There are ton's of profiles online to get ideas from and you are welcome to look at ours if that helps.
Keep up the good work!
If, you know, you ever wanted someone to take a few pictures of the two of you together, I would be thrilled to...
It's just so hard to read about your journey through this. I feel so angry that you have to prove your worth. I know what you feel is much more, but still. But I'm sure the book will be beautiful and full of personality. I have faith in you.
I'm really glad you've gotten started - it's a big step!
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