Friday, May 21, 2010


I'm a little bit worried about CC and O. Neither I nor the adoption lawyer has heard from them for 6 months. I have a blog with videos of Henry for them to watch and I have a y0utub3 video embedded on it and they haven't watched it.

They are normally very online.

I'm concerned. I do have some old phone numbers for them, but to be honest I'm afraid to call them. My last interaction with O. was a little uncomfortable and that was via IM. I'm not sure what I would do if it went that way on the phone.

We don't have much of an established relationship, so I'm not sure how to navigate this. They really wanted to maintain contact with us throughout Henry's life, so I want to make sure I know how to contact them.

Perhaps they just want some space, but that's not the feeling I get. The feeling I get is that they've hit a rough spot. I guess I just have to be patient and hope this rough spot gets smoothed over and then I will hear from them again.

But I remain worried.


Anonymous said...

I would be concerned too. Although I would also guess that they may still need a break or time away from the situation too. Maybe it's overwhelming at times. Hope all is well and you make contact soon.

Anonymous said...

I wonder if maybe they need a bit of space. You have made yourself available to them, I guess you have to wait to hear from them. At least for a bit.

Sue said...

How could you not be worried? If it's really weighing on you, you can always reach out and try to contact them via phone. Maybe they are have hit a rough spot, or this is hard for them and they need to sit with it for a while. I know that NOT knowing is certainly hard.

ultimatejourney said...

I'm sorry. I would feel the same way. Do they text? Perhaps that would be less difficult than calling? (It might not feel so pressured, because of the inherent time delay, but might give more of an opening for a shorter response than email.)

DrSpouse said...

Could the lawyer or a social worker call them, if you are uncomfortable about it? Or your dad? I seem to remember your dad met them?

Are they on FB and do they post regularly on there?

Karen said...

I think I would be concerned as well......but you've done all you can do to keep the lines of communications open......seems like the next move is up to them......abd by the way Henry is just adorable!