We spoke with expectant dad on the phone this evening. He was great. He's a little more reluctant about the adoption plan, but he knows it's best for them. We could just hear in his voice how much he wished he could parent this boy and it's just so hard.
We assured him this child would know how much he loves him. We assured him that we would let him know how this boy is doing on a regular basis. We said to him that we could possibly meet face to face at some point. We created an email address just for them to send us emails.
He told us he definitely knows that this is the right thing for his child -- he wants this child to have what he knows he cannot give the boy. But it so clearly hurts that he cannot provide this to the boy.
He asked if we were nervous and excited. We told him we were. We are.
But we are also sad for their loss.
Life as an adoptive family.
My Story
- Rachel
- 4 miscarriages, 3 failed IVFs with PGD, 2 different sperm donors, 1 diagnosis of balanced translocation. Now we are the proud parents of a boy via domestic infant semi-open adoption. We had a failed match for kid #2 and are now matched again.
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When is the baby's due date again? Have you agreed on a name? I am waiting with great anticipation! Did you find another caretaker for the puppy?
That is just so sad.... what a huge emotional pool to wade through for you guys, your excitement and sadness all at the same time. :( I am glad that little boy is so loved already, by people who want what's best for him.
Wow.. Your little boy is already so loved..
I think it's nice that you are able to talk to the parents and reassure them.
Sounds like a great conversation! It must be so hard to be giving up your child - but it sounds like he knows that this is what's best. It will mean a lot to your son someday to know that his birthfather loves him so much.
I remember watching a 20/20 special back in '07 about adoption and being heartbroken for the waiting parents who had been through so much. Then, just last night, we were watching an episode of Mad Men that showed a woman interacting with the child she had given up (the baby was being raised by her mom). It was just gut-wrenching. I have a huge amount of respect for people who are able to make the selfless decision to do what's best for the child. I hope that your conversation made it easier for them to find peace with their decision.
Praying for a smooth adoption!
It is so bittersweet. Happiness and joy for you, and grief and loss for them. I am amazed by the strength of birthparents to make this choice for their child. I have so much respect for our son's birthparents and we continue to have a relationship with them.
Wow, massive emotions going around but I'm so pleased for you both and the birth parents that there is communication. Your baby is much loved with particular care and thought taken about his future. There is not enough of that in this world. x
I'm new to reading your blog, but I'm enjoying reading it! Adoption must be such an amazing, emotional journey. Good luck to you!
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