A woman who is 7 months pregnant told me today that I was "lucky" to not be able to be pregnant and give birth. Happily, at this point I mostly just get annoyed at comments like that. I simply told her that being an adoptive parent has its own distinct difficulties.
But I'm still thinking about it and am still annoyed. People have no idea.
That being said, I am lucky. But not for the reasons she thinks I am.
Life as an adoptive family.
My Story
- Rachel
- 4 miscarriages, 3 failed IVFs with PGD, 2 different sperm donors, 1 diagnosis of balanced translocation. Now we are the proud parents of a boy via domestic infant semi-open adoption. We had a failed match for kid #2 and are now matched again.
8 comments:
Whaaa...?!
She obviously knows that you have IF issues for her to say it in that way, so I would also think she would be just a tad more sensitive.
I guess I should feel sorry for her as she doesn't realize how lucky SHE is.
Yikes! Why would anyone say something like that regardless of how you became a mother. If she doesn't like being pregnant and giving birth there are a lot of ways to make sure it doesn't happen. I'm sorry you have to deal with such an idiot! You are LUCKY! And, honestly her child is kind of UNLUCKY!
Some people are just stupid. Really. There is no other word for that.
I've heard many people say that pregnancy destroys brain cells, but this moronic comment defies all explanation. I'm sorry you had to hear that. And even sorrier for her kids, who probably hear much worse.
Gosh, what a stupid thing to say. And how insensitive to say it to you.
What?! I think I'd punch someone who told me that. Lucky. What the fuck.
I've had people say similar things to me. My 2 favorites were when one person didn't like the way she lost her figure and the other had been really afraid of some medical condition that runs in her husbands family and griped about hospital expense when she gave birth (BTW, child didn't have health condition). I was so horrified all I could do was point out how difficult and expensive adoption is, went on to say that by trying to get pregant I really jeopardized my health, and they should be thankful they have healthy children because I know I do everyday. They just looked at me.
Now I'm annoyed FOR you. Grrr....
Happy blogoversary, Rachel.
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