tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26805135.post9137103869301783877..comments2023-05-01T11:01:19.417-05:00Comments on Henry Street: HereRachelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02996214314229242361noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26805135.post-2932389858112589492008-01-07T15:50:00.000-05:002008-01-07T15:50:00.000-05:00oh shit rachel, i'm so sorry about the miscarriage...oh shit rachel, i'm so sorry about the miscarriage.<BR/><BR/>there are so many things to think through with adoption, i think it's great that you know how you feel about interracial adoption. if you don't feel it's for you there's no reason to fret about the decision. there are enough other things to work through (as if you haven't already had your share).Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01587725139301198392noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26805135.post-1316942974145283402008-01-07T08:18:00.000-05:002008-01-07T08:18:00.000-05:00Hi Rachel, I had an early m/c after my 1st IVF. T...Hi Rachel, I had an early m/c after my 1st IVF. The bleeding took forever and when it did it was very light and strange. My boobs stayed sore for a while as well. I was told that this is normal. I am so sorry you are going through this again. It is an emptiness that's hard to put into words.<BR/>Thinking of you, and hoping it is over soon.<BR/>(((Hugs)))<BR/>MandsMandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02602506060731650727noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26805135.post-66091003873190697892008-01-06T21:34:00.000-05:002008-01-06T21:34:00.000-05:00I'm so sorry you've having a tough time *HUGS*. T...I'm so sorry you've having a tough time *HUGS*. The decision to adopt is a tough one--I've considered it, but not willing to completely go for it yet. Your heart will know when/if its time.<BR/><BR/>Good luck with the job. If nothing else, a big change will help keep your mind off things.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26805135.post-85967424094371811532008-01-06T17:38:00.000-05:002008-01-06T17:38:00.000-05:00I know that you are down and certainly your feelin...I know that you are down and certainly your feelings are 110% valid. But to me this post sounds much less depressed. You are making plans - the new job sounds like a great opportunity as it would fulfill some of your needs, like insurance - and considering adoption. I honestly think that ART can be a soul-killer and, if you feel it is time to walk away, then no one should question it. In fact, I was beginning to get REALLY worried about the hole this entire process has put you in and am relieved to hear that you are considering pursuing other opportunities.<BR/><BR/>Of course, I am here to support you no matter what you decide!!!LIW (Lady In Waiting)https://www.blogger.com/profile/06199047053421154823noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26805135.post-52792452865895504592008-01-06T16:44:00.000-05:002008-01-06T16:44:00.000-05:00I am new to your blog. I just wanted to say that I...I am new to your blog. I just wanted to say that I am sending hugs your way.<BR/><BR/>Miscarriages suck. That is all there is to it. And I am sorry it is happening.Staciehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01471803757485977959noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26805135.post-33205500383601121552008-01-06T12:08:00.000-05:002008-01-06T12:08:00.000-05:00You've been through a lot of ART and I can see why...You've been through a lot of ART and I can see why you're fed up with it. Obviously only the two of you know when it is the right time to change tacks. I think you will make wonderful parents no matter how it all works out.<BR/><BR/>FWIW, I think any 'layers of complication' in your child's life will feel normal to them since it is the only thing they will know, and since I anticipate that you will do a good job of talking to them about everything and making it feel normal.ultimatejourneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01385256618267945461noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26805135.post-77823889426407759832008-01-05T22:03:00.000-05:002008-01-05T22:03:00.000-05:00I know my feelings go up and down all over the pla...I know my feelings go up and down all over the place! D and I have also discussed the whole issue of bringing a child into our family who comes from a different culture. We are also an inter-religious family. So it becomes a lot of traditions to think about juggling! Perhaps it really won't be a bad thing, but it is a lot to think about. <BR/><BR/>This is definitely a sucky way to take a break. I hope that the next test shows that things have cleared out of your system (as sad as that sounds).Samanthahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02799401502134619497noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26805135.post-75493794303983710522008-01-05T21:43:00.000-05:002008-01-05T21:43:00.000-05:00It shouldn't have to be so difficult. Thinking of...It shouldn't have to be so difficult. Thinking of you.niobehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10685766216611639434noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26805135.post-39403925818723502792008-01-05T20:22:00.000-05:002008-01-05T20:22:00.000-05:00It is a huge decision. It's one we went directly ...It is a huge decision. It's one we went directly to. I could really care less about the bio link and I just wanted to be a mom. I don't really have any advice for you and all I can do is share my feelings. It is expensive, but will be so worth it when you have a child. Your insurance covers ART treatments in MA, and you are lucky, but really adoption isn't too expensive (home equity loans are wonderful thing). It does take away the emotional ups and downs that go along w/fertility stuff. After you do all the paperwork you just wait knowing that at the end you will be chosen. As for the mixed race thing. I too didn't think I was comfortable w/it, but as time passed I became more used to the idea (especially knowing you will get chosen a lot faster because there are more children available). It wouldn't bother me at all, however my husband is not quite as relaxed about it. He has the same opinion that you do and told me that he wanted it to be our childs story to tell who he felt comfortable with. Aside from the money, is a bio link, being pregnant, or being a parent most important to you. It is NOT second best just a different way to form a family. I hope I don't sound preachy because I don't mean it that way. If we aren't successful we WILL return to the adoption world. <BR/><BR/>Good luck w/the job and hopefully the miscarriage will resolve itself soon.Happyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14335137784267157167noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26805135.post-63680551688742454322008-01-05T14:04:00.000-05:002008-01-05T14:04:00.000-05:00I'm sorry you are feeling so down. (((hug))). Go...I'm sorry you are feeling so down. (((hug))). Good luck with the job. It's hard knowing how to pace treatments because with IF yesterday is not soon enough.Almamayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07206790533323008540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26805135.post-90923024156764533922008-01-05T12:54:00.000-05:002008-01-05T12:54:00.000-05:00We have taken the adoption plunge and actually wen...We have taken the adoption plunge and actually went into the 'free' agency. I felt a huge sense of relief that I could actually have a family. It is a long process, it takes at least 6 months to even get to the waiting list, but we are going to give it a go. <BR/><BR/>I had my heart set on an infant, but when the option of a sibling set was presented, it was kind of like 'wow' here is a whole family. We have a lot of thinking to do about what we would accept. It is tough to make the choices. <BR/><BR/>I hope this is all over soon, the miscarriage and the childlessness.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com