tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26805135.post8339106598785037116..comments2023-05-01T11:01:19.417-05:00Comments on Henry Street: Nothing doingRachelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02996214314229242361noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26805135.post-77790533312842198012007-11-08T11:57:00.000-05:002007-11-08T11:57:00.000-05:00Mook and I get on the same roller coaster--it take...Mook and I get on the same roller coaster--it takes a LOT of strength to cope with all that this journey entails...Im hoping that both of you have MUCH to celebrate soon!JJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18027548058304720360noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26805135.post-8896810132104778312007-11-08T09:16:00.000-05:002007-11-08T09:16:00.000-05:00Rachel, I'm so sorry! I can honestly say that I th...Rachel, I'm so sorry! <BR/><BR/>I can honestly say that I think having the family will take away the pain. It won't solve all of life's problems or marriage issues, but I do think that it will take away this saddness you all feel. Until we decided to use DI our lives felt much like what you are describing. Now that we are expecting our relationship has gotten better. It isn't all grins and giggles, but that huge black cloud we had hanging over our head has lifted. I was also worried that since the baby wasn't genetically my husband's the saddness may linger, but I can't imagine him any happier, excited and loving if the baby carried his genes.<BR/><BR/>Hang in there! I think you guys can make it through this.Somewhat Ordinaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09701338805685025735noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26805135.post-46054636216588961232007-11-08T01:39:00.000-05:002007-11-08T01:39:00.000-05:00I'm sorry Rachel. I completely understand T's fea...I'm sorry Rachel. I completely understand T's fears and worry about the same thing. I just feel devoid of who I used to be anymore and there's not getting it back. But I have no choice but to stubbornly insist (my inner dialog) that of course things will get better, they have to. I just need to keep moving forward until the tide changes.<BR/><BR/>Thinking of you and wishing you the best.<BR/><BR/>EricaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26805135.post-59517105533434075222007-11-07T21:14:00.000-05:002007-11-07T21:14:00.000-05:00When I am upset and my husband can't solve my prob...When I am upset and my husband can't solve my problems or take away the pain, it starts a cycle. He feels bad that he can't fix my problem and then we are both down. I wonder if T feels the same way?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26805135.post-38065016512627134102007-11-07T18:31:00.000-05:002007-11-07T18:31:00.000-05:00Rachel, I'm sorry that I don't know just what to s...Rachel, I'm sorry that I don't know just what to say. I wish things were going more simply for you.<BR/><BR/>I think if you and T are in therapy than he should have hope that things will improve when you finally have your family. If your unhappiness was due to significant problems in your relationship, I would think those things would have come up in therapy.<BR/><BR/>It may be that he just feels helpless. I know whenever I pressure my DH to talk about our IF, all he wants to say is that he wants it to be over, and he wishes he could make that happen. Men need to move into action for their women. And when they can't they feel terrible. Maybe try giving him some active things to do to make you both feel better? Cook together, do a puzzle, something? <BR/><BR/>Thinking of you.Waiting Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07487061896648183375noreply@blogger.com