tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26805135.post7783468614852845892..comments2023-05-01T11:01:19.417-05:00Comments on Henry Street: ThinkingRachelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02996214314229242361noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26805135.post-4888298466267556672009-02-26T17:52:00.000-05:002009-02-26T17:52:00.000-05:00Sorry, I know I am commenting on a really old post...Sorry, I know I am commenting on a really old post...<BR/><BR/>Tim just read "Primal Wound" after having heard something about it on the radio -- he is adopted -- and he said that he found reading it very helpful...Jessica at Bwlchyrhydhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16003432996223619115noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26805135.post-25376472466398642582008-09-22T15:45:00.000-05:002008-09-22T15:45:00.000-05:00I'm writing more on this on my blog... Yep, puttin...I'm writing more on this on my blog... Yep, putting a target on myself again.DrSpousehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07259337858075146058noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26805135.post-70415309526967655782008-09-21T19:33:00.000-05:002008-09-21T19:33:00.000-05:00I was a bit hesitant to publish Jane's reaction to...I was a bit hesitant to publish Jane's reaction to drspouse's opinion on Primal Wound. But I do know that many adoptees identify with this book and I didn't want her to feel like this opinion isn't valid.<BR/><BR/>That being said, not all adoptees identify with this book. I spoke to two of them today.<BR/><BR/>So, some people feel this way and some do not. Every situation is different.Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12460332191706365559noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26805135.post-82384879771914428092008-09-21T19:17:00.000-05:002008-09-21T19:17:00.000-05:00You do have to be aware that a lot of professional...<I>You do have to be aware that a lot of professionals and researchers (people with no axe to grind in this game - not adoptive parents, adoptees or birth parents) really think The Primal Wound has, er, no basis in fact.<BR/><BR/>(I am putting that as politely as I can!)</I><BR/><BR/>Really ? would you like to point out these professionals and researches ?<BR/><BR/>The Primal Would is one of the best books out there to understand adoption.<BR/>But then again I guess it depends on how willing one is to seeing that adoption is NOT all hearts and flowers and that there is great pain caused.<BR/><BR/>I am not anti adoption. I am adopted and I know the affects of adoption. You can read my blog or you can email me, email address on the blog, through the mail box with the bird crapping on it !<BR/><BR/>I love my adoptive parents VERY MUCH, but I lost something in order to be adopted.<BR/><BR/>Thats the point. The LOSS<BR/><BR/>When an adoptive parent gets that then they can parent an adopted child positively.<BR/><BR/>Reading The Primal Would will certainly help you do that.<BR/><BR/>Again to the commenter above, if there is not *primal would* then why at 41 years of age, despite having the most wonderful aparents, who gave me a wonderful life, do I ache for my Mother and my Sister (older sister) ? why do I hurt so much inside ?<BR/><BR/>Ive done I guarantee far more research and studies than yourself and despite all the *facts* all the *logic* all the *anything you want to call it* I still ACHE for my biological mother.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26805135.post-66049080978440689542008-09-21T14:39:00.000-05:002008-09-21T14:39:00.000-05:00You do have to be aware that a lot of professional...You do have to be aware that a lot of professionals and researchers (people with no axe to grind in this game - not adoptive parents, adoptees or birth parents) really think The Primal Wound has, er, no basis in fact.<BR/><BR/>(I am putting that as politely as I can!)DrSpousehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07259337858075146058noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26805135.post-22639135198113553352008-09-20T11:51:00.000-05:002008-09-20T11:51:00.000-05:00It sounds like you're doing some good things for y...It sounds like you're doing some good things for you. Wishing you lots of luck in this.chicklethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16090701824999372199noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26805135.post-12899516261836483972008-09-19T23:31:00.000-05:002008-09-19T23:31:00.000-05:00I'm outside the US and wondering how an adoption s...I'm outside the US and wondering how an adoption search works.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26805135.post-11559877442982033132008-09-19T21:51:00.000-05:002008-09-19T21:51:00.000-05:00I am willing to answer any questions you may have ...I am willing to answer any questions you may have of me as an adult adoptee. My adoption was closed, but I do now know my birth father. <BR/><BR/>I have not read Primal Wound, but heard it is pretty harsh. <BR/><BR/>Seriously, if you have any questions I can answer, email me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26805135.post-11940208779332420372008-09-19T15:38:00.000-05:002008-09-19T15:38:00.000-05:00I liked Secret thoughts of an Adoptive Mother by J...I liked Secret thoughts of an Adoptive Mother by Jana Wolff.beaglehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17627886826215379414noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26805135.post-56807613781224873742008-09-19T13:59:00.000-05:002008-09-19T13:59:00.000-05:00Hi,I am a transracial adoptee, specifically from T...Hi,<BR/><BR/>I am a transracial adoptee, specifically from Taiwan. I have already had an online "reunion" with my biological parents and siblings.<BR/><BR/>It's not easy. In fact, FAR from it.<BR/><BR/>I know that you are getting a lot of anti-adoption commenters and are probably feeling very much "ganged up" on.<BR/><BR/>So... I recommend the blog that I've written, which was designed specifically to address questions and concerns from (prospective) adoptive parents. It isn't really an anti-adoption blog, more like a guide. I'm not sure if you want to take a look at it, but if you do, it gives a general idea of where all these commenters are coming from and explains the emotions that adoptees go through as children, and then later, as adults.<BR/><BR/>I think it would help you understand a little about our perspectives and why we aren't praising rainbows and bunnies out of adoption.<BR/><BR/>http://sisterheping.wordpress.com/Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26805135.post-65355607063690512352008-09-19T13:52:00.000-05:002008-09-19T13:52:00.000-05:00"Primal Wound" can be a very difficult read. It's..."Primal Wound" can be a very difficult read. It's worthwhile reading, but hard. I'd be glad to talk more about my thoughts on it by email if you want.<BR/><BR/>And the "Making Room in Our Hearts" book Luna mentioned is my top recommendation to anyone adopting right now. Really good stuff in there.<BR/><BR/>I'm so sorry the dialogue here has been harsh and hurtful. No matter what part of the triad we are, adoption is a deeply emotional, personal issue. Everyone deserves to be treated with respect. Hang in there.Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05737780263679929983noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26805135.post-45947735211805186272008-09-19T00:10:00.000-05:002008-09-19T00:10:00.000-05:00good to hear you're considering what options are a...good to hear you're considering what options are available. <BR/><BR/>no one likes to be blindsided, especially in their own space. do what feels right for you. <BR/><BR/>I've read about 6 books on open adoption in the last few months and by far my favorite was "making room in our hearts" by micky duxbury. highly recommend it.lunahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15455301696832647867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26805135.post-67507219541079163302008-09-18T20:32:00.000-05:002008-09-18T20:32:00.000-05:00I am just in awe of how wise you sound. You inspir...I am just in awe of how wise you sound. You inspire me. I hope you find that good fit so you can move forward in a positive direction. I feel so good about this for you!!Nataliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16003334714597731355noreply@blogger.com