tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26805135.post7234915169457763543..comments2023-05-01T11:01:19.417-05:00Comments on Henry Street: Moving alongRachelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02996214314229242361noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26805135.post-45040816292056662622008-11-25T21:34:00.000-05:002008-11-25T21:34:00.000-05:00I'm came by via the Creme 2007, seeing where every...I'm came by via the Creme 2007, seeing where everyone is these days. And I just wanted to encourage you in your wait, to know that there are many who have experienced that hard balance between hope and reality. And it really took my back a few years, you last two sentences, the difficulty of actually admitting that you might have a match sometime soon. <BR/><BR/>For us, we went from done (as in closing the door on the semi-finished nursery with all the parenting books thrown in on the floor...this was 13 months into our wait) to speaking to an expecting mother in one week. It is unbelievable the emotions of a journey like that. But I encourage you to take it day by day and don't lose hope. No promises of course, just enough for today. <BR/><BR/>I have no words of wisdom regarding long matches as our agency didn't do things that way. We were matched for 48 hours the first time, two weeks the second time. It was a whirlwind but for us, it seemed very right to jump in with both feet to see what happens. The down side is that you enter into what is and will become a highly emotional experience with someone is for all other reasons, a stranger. That was really hard for all of us... we muddled through but communication was tough at times. <BR/><BR/>Hoping something happens very soon for you... blessings...Tammyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18045769392036053038noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26805135.post-74442651291709290022008-11-10T22:46:00.000-05:002008-11-10T22:46:00.000-05:00I'm a planner and I can understand wanting to know...I'm a planner and I can understand wanting to know early. I'm very excited for you. I'm keeping my fingers crosses and thinking good thoughts!!astralhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17071489588665538423noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26805135.post-30252644384487583632008-11-10T11:02:00.000-05:002008-11-10T11:02:00.000-05:00It is really hard to believe it's actually going t...It is really hard to believe it's actually going to happen. My husband and I were matched about 2.5 months before the birth. I don't think our BM ever wavered, but I sure worried that she'd change her mind. It's probably not easy either way it happens. When we were finally matched, I got excited and then I got scared. As long as we tried to become parents (right about 6 years), when it finally seemed like a real possibility, I got nervous. You will make it through this, and it's ok to believe it's really going to happen! Good luck!hope548https://www.blogger.com/profile/11951199252401108222noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26805135.post-86982714311645826822008-11-10T09:40:00.000-05:002008-11-10T09:40:00.000-05:00I'm glad things are moving forward with the proces...I'm glad things are moving forward with the process, but I can see where it would be so hard with so many uncertainties. I think Luna outlined the advantages and disadvantages of a quick placement versus a long match. Either way, it's go to be hard to imagine it will happen, but it WILL.Samanthahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02799401502134619497noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26805135.post-22844716867372635492008-11-10T00:18:00.000-05:002008-11-10T00:18:00.000-05:00I can understand that feeling - if you want to com...I can understand that feeling - if you want to compare this i guess this time is like your "pregnancy" only you don't know how long it will go for.<BR/><BR/>And I think for people who have had ongoing trauma in relation to fertility often have a hard time believing that the situatio will ever change - even when the evidence is to the contrary.<BR/><BR/>It's so hard - but very understandable. (And it's also getting a little bit exciting?!)<BR/><BR/>Sorry if I am jumping ahead - but I'm happy to hold your flame of hope for you if it is too hard to carry it for yourself. And you can do the same for me in return.<BR/><BR/>love BarbBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11890663570732346315noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26805135.post-89837058546593016452008-11-08T13:33:00.000-05:002008-11-08T13:33:00.000-05:00the lack of timeline and planning is hard. in som...the lack of timeline and planning is hard. in some ways you have to think of this time as your planning, yet there are things you probably don't want to do or can't, so it's a challenge. <BR/><BR/>for me, the pros about a long match are that the expectant mother will have a better opportunity for good counseling and may feel more assured in her decision. plus, there's more time for you to bond and build a relationship. but of course, there's also the chance of growing more attached, even though anything can happen and you can't know the outcome. either way it's a leap of faith. <BR/><BR/>what I hear about last minute placements, depending on how they come up, is that at least you don't have time to worry too much, you just jump on in and see if it feels right. but you have to be ready...lunahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15455301696832647867noreply@blogger.com