tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26805135.post3433129089253358940..comments2023-05-01T11:01:19.417-05:00Comments on Henry Street: PassoverRachelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02996214314229242361noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26805135.post-88593026075623117342009-04-15T08:01:00.000-05:002009-04-15T08:01:00.000-05:00I really dig this post, especially as someone who ...I really dig this post, especially as someone who so desperately wanted to adopt from my home country (India)before we realised our system here in Oz is just fucked up and we turned to IVF, which is also equally fucked up as it turns out. I now live vicariously through my internet friends who are in the various stages of adoption. It is a beautiful, healthy way to have a family. Blood is nothing. Genetic links count for something, but nurture surpasses all. <br /><br />I don't believe in the "blood is thicker than water" mentality. I basically never have. I'm the black sheep of my family. My husband is estranged from his adult biological son and my father has practically disowned me. <br /><br />I know its difficult to let go, to come to terms. But I did this by thinking of it as a means to an end... parenting, in the end, was my end/paramount goal. It didn't matter to me where the genetic material of my baby/child came from. Because legally, ethically and morally, adopted children will be your children. (In our case, hopefully the adopted embryos will work)...<br /><br />xxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26805135.post-33071789741515613082009-04-11T10:06:00.000-05:002009-04-11T10:06:00.000-05:00I can't tell you how much I relate to this post. ...I can't tell you how much I relate to this post. You said it brilliantly. <BR/><BR/>I might have Italian blood through my veins, but when I sit at a table with my Italian birth family, it can be strange. I do not share the customs, traditions or even identify with a lot of it. Even though I look Italian and make mean sauce, I identify more strongly with my family, the one who really mattered, my adoptive family.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26805135.post-42184082535075059762009-04-10T11:27:00.000-05:002009-04-10T11:27:00.000-05:00Here from the L&F...I love the connection betw...Here from the L&F...I love the connection between Moses' birthmother especially. I'd thought of MOSES but not as much of his bio and adoptive families, really.<BR/><BR/>As an adoptive mom, it IS scary to wonder what my daughter will think one day. The best I can do is let her feel like loving ALL OF US is fine and hope that the bond we have here is enough to make her love us all the same. What more is there to do?Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05181924375187173030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26805135.post-70496960138240745692009-04-10T10:37:00.000-05:002009-04-10T10:37:00.000-05:00just catching up on my reading. I agree with mel,...just catching up on my reading. I agree with mel, this is a truly fascinating post.lunahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15455301696832647867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26805135.post-68061711162683120862009-04-10T10:30:00.000-05:002009-04-10T10:30:00.000-05:00I Honestly had never thought about that aspect of ...I Honestly had never thought about that aspect of Moses' story. What a fascinating point of view.Kristinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10791317184998122691noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26805135.post-20846649749046409372009-04-10T09:13:00.000-05:002009-04-10T09:13:00.000-05:00Great post, Rachel.I think you explain the predica...Great post, Rachel.<BR/><BR/>I think you explain the predicament well.<BR/><BR/>This is one reason why open adoption makes sense to me (for my family). Instead of either/or, our children experience the "and" of their two different worlds.Lori Lavender Luzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15394441222262940632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26805135.post-35440560524554986012009-04-09T13:16:00.000-05:002009-04-09T13:16:00.000-05:00Thanks for the link to the punk rock post, I loved...Thanks for the link to the punk rock post, I loved that.<BR/><BR/>I've been reading you for a while, and DH and I just filed our initial papers for domestic as well, and it happens that we're in the same state as you so I will probably be following along with you in the days to come. Figured it was time to de-lurk!<BR/><BR/>And we're both totally into re-doing the house all of a sudden now as well. There is half painted molding all over my house :)kgannonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17690673443019056394noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26805135.post-62505062811259251502009-04-09T08:55:00.000-05:002009-04-09T08:55:00.000-05:00This is absolutely brilliant. I had never even co...This is absolutely brilliant. I had never even considered that aspect of the Passover story.niobehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10685766216611639434noreply@blogger.com