tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26805135.post2077048517716993849..comments2023-05-01T11:01:19.417-05:00Comments on Henry Street: On AdoptionRachelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02996214314229242361noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26805135.post-67325577018494520272008-08-29T16:08:00.000-05:002008-08-29T16:08:00.000-05:00Not to take away from your feelings when around pr...Not to take away from your feelings when around pregnant women, but I'd like to say that as an adoptee, it wasn't until I reunited with my mother and family that I was finally able not feel extreme discomfort and sadness whenever I was around biolologically related families. <BR/><BR/>They had pics on their walls where people looked alike, they talked about genetic appearance and prsonality similarities and ancestries. There had baby pictures and pictures of their mothers when they were pregnant with them, stories of how they arrived in the world and so on. Then there was the neverending comments about how someone inheritaed this or that from their mother, father, grandparent, aunt or uncle. Movies about all the above, books, literature, plays....we're surrounded by blood connectons, but adoptees have none.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26805135.post-76804706508023096062008-08-29T14:08:00.000-05:002008-08-29T14:08:00.000-05:00It's been a long hard road for you guys. And when ...It's been a long hard road for you guys. And when you become a mommy you will tell your child/children that you wouldn't change it for the world. Because that club wouldn't have brought them to you.ultimatejourneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01385256618267945461noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26805135.post-93676619016379352008-08-28T03:16:00.000-05:002008-08-28T03:16:00.000-05:00You must be one tough lady to have gone through so...You must be one tough lady to have gone through so much. I bet you will be an amazing adoptive parent.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26805135.post-48101628795109169322008-08-28T03:00:00.000-05:002008-08-28T03:00:00.000-05:00I'm sorry. That would be an incredibly difficult ...I'm sorry. That would be an incredibly difficult aspect to come to terms with.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26805135.post-74449329096777680342008-08-27T21:12:00.000-05:002008-08-27T21:12:00.000-05:00That's the hardest part for me when I debate stopp...That's the hardest part for me when I debate stopping - that I'll really never ever be a part of it. That's a hard thing to face, that feeling of being left out (forced out of being left out).chicklethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16090701824999372199noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26805135.post-9756976490818548502008-08-27T11:14:00.000-05:002008-08-27T11:14:00.000-05:00It's really tough to come to that realization. Str...It's really tough to come to that realization. Strangely I think I'm there even though we are still trying. I can't imagine it working. Adopting is in my mind all the time now. There is such a great, supportive adoptive community out there and they will be your club. There are a lot of natural parents out there who shouldn't be and what you have is special. It takes strength and integrity to adopt so I say your club is made up of some pretty amazing people.Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10020092037054327172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26805135.post-73759418201306057122008-08-27T07:48:00.000-05:002008-08-27T07:48:00.000-05:00Yup, grieving. It's a loss like any other and it ...Yup, grieving. It's a loss like any other and it sounds like you're in a healthy place right now.Happyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14335137784267157167noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26805135.post-49416032328647065092008-08-27T06:57:00.000-05:002008-08-27T06:57:00.000-05:00it's not fair. maybe...hopefully, the salve of hav...it's not fair. maybe...hopefully, the salve of having your baby/ies will make you not care if you are not a part of that club b/c no one except you will be a member of the club that you will be in, and that will be the club of being mommy to YOUR baby/ies.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com